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Day 50 of 100 - Why are you so nice?
February 19th.
I once attended a seminar that asked me to search my reasons for being nice. It was super cool.... I found out a couple of things that ran deeper than I thought....
Being nice is not the same as being kind. Being nice is often a survival mechanism to keep people from judging us. HOWEVER, in doing so we gradually become shells of our real selves unable to express how we really feel and cutting nearly all social adventure from our lives.
So I began an experiment to watch myself... and sure enough I had tons of automatic "nice" responses to keep other people at bay and make sure they left with a good impression of me.
YUCK, YUCK, YUCK!! It was a huge turning point in my life and I began to engage people much more proactively and say things that were interesting, fun, and borderline offensive but were real.
The most AMAZING thing happened. I began to connect with people in a way I never had before. Nobody spit on me or asked me to leave the room, well...except that one time...but for the most part I felt like I had entered a whole new life.
Remember to be kind, thoughtful, honest and adventurous, but don't be nice so people will like you!
DK
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